As kids get older, they gain more and more independence. There's nothing wrong with that. It's actually a great thing. But think about it from the mommy stand point: From day 1 the child relies solely on you {and dad} for survival. As the child grows, we encourage all kinds of behavior that promotes independence - rolling over, sleeping through the night, crawling, walking, talking, playing, using imaginations - and we slowly become not-so-needed anymore. Don't get me wrong, the fact that Eden can get her own snacks most of the time, or her cup out of the fridge, or put her own clothes away - and even help fold them sometimes - is a wonderful thing! But she doesn't lay with me and cuddle with me like Hunter does because she's got more of an independent nature {and she's older.}
When my kids are willing to cuddle with me, I'll usually drop what I'm doing and give in! Eden will sometimes get in the habit of coming into my bedroom after she's been tucked in and read to. There are nights that I can't handle it, but then she asks for just one hug, or just one kiss. I tell her that I'm not happy that she's out of her bed, and that she's lucky that I like her hugs and kisses! Hunter likes to get in the way when I'm cooking dinner - his favorite time to cuddle! He pushes his way between me and the counter so he can hug my legs. Today he was just walking around our island and coming up to me to hug me. When he wakes up from the night or his nap he'll lay on my shoulder - even if only for a second!
Oh, why do kids have to grow up?! I know, I know, I'm blessed beyond measure to have these cuddlers like I do, but can they stay little forever so they'll WANT to cuddle with me forever?!
I feel you! Wait until you're certain that you won't be having any more babies and then see how it feels :) (Not that I want more though LOL!!)
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